Alarm clock for the time to wake up...(Contd from previous)

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We must be alert not to take vacant Buses at such late night hours. But the question of the hour is, why at all and ever should such a fear for late night activities be there? A decent person cannot carry out his work late at night just because some useless fellow wants to have fun by turning out wild at such hours? And all of this just because he knows that the administration is not at all strong enough to track such cases and sue the culprits?

We need a strong law. We need to strengthen our system. But somewhere, we need to strengthen our mentality too. When my friend's mother gave me the aforementioned reasons, I gave her exactly these counter-reasons. Post-partition, when Salwar Kameez was the most popular attire for women, rapes were happening at, I guess, double the rate! What were girls doing wrong, then??

So, I still do not support the Slut Walks. Seriously. 'Besharami' is not the code of conduct, be it on the part of men or women. But yes, I stand for the freedom of an individual who can be a male, female, trans-gender, homosexual or anyone! I stand for  a change that has to come from within.

I may not go to India Gate for the protest. But wherever, whenever I face such orthodoxies, I protest personally, violently and strongly!

Incident of rape and the time to wake up!

As a part of my internship Project, I visited Safdarjang Hospital two days back. I was with two other friends of mine. The Project analysis took some time and I reached home late in the evening. Thanks to the cyber boom, the news of the incident reached us much before the newspapers talked about it. And I was a bit taken aback: Hours ago a molested rape victim had been admitted into the hospital. I was there at the hospital while she was being treated but I got no clue she was there....I was horrified later when I got to know!
South Delhi- Rape incident.
Has become a nation wide rage. I know. This post could be the nth thing that is being written about it.
I know that too. Redundant could be another definition of this post. Yeah, I know again.

But will the knowledge of all this prevent me from writing this? If the redundancy of rapes can prevent rapists from indulging into such a heinous crime, then I guess, I will not write anything further. But hey! I AM. I am writing...a lot many words...further...

My heart has this sinking feeling as I write.

I have read many opinions and first of all, I must admit that yes, I am actually doing nothing more than praying for that brave girl- I guess, somewhere, she knows that I am!

I can blame everyone else- the government, the 'men', the system! But I guess, somewhere, it starts from within! From my own friend circle, from my own society! And I am a part of the society that I blame.

I will not blame 'all men'. Among the people most disturbed by this incident, on my friend list, are guys! So, they really hate such ill treatment of women! Not all men are the same...In fact, only a tiny fraction of men, constituted by rapists, has defamed all of them. Many men are fabulous and the most respectable!

I have a friend. His mother reacted to this incident. But in a way, quite different from mine. Among 'her' list of accusations were the short dresses being worn by girls these days, the 'stupidity' of the girl to have boarded the vacant Bus so late at night and the ignorance of girls to fall in love blindly, these days.

First things first,
        Short dresses- yeah! They ARE a bit distracting- not just for the guys but for the girls as well. I mean, if I see John Abraham flaunting his oil-massaged shining 'Dostana' body out on the  Street just in front of my College, I will hardly be able to study, just like the hundred other girls in my College. Yes!
        When one is in a civilized society, one has to follow certain code of conduct to make the words 'civilized society' capable of being used together and decent clothing IS a part of that code of conduct. A boy or a girl can and must be taught by his/her family what to wear and where to wear. No Gender Bias here. Both the genders should know it. But random suggestions and advices?Oh please!
         Secondly, I do really feel that at the HANDS OF DRUNK and mad people, found roaming in streets at night, not just the girls but even the guys are unsafe. You never know how a drunk might 'over react' and 'ill treat' you.

Now, some further clarifications.
         A girl's body could be a bit attractive for men but the theory of the 'provocative' nature of the clothes is just a by-product of a fallen and failed mentality; that's it!
         Coming to my example of John Abraham, I must comment, that John flaunting his Body in Dostana is not as sensuous as Bips doing the same in Dhoom-2 on the Beach! Yes. Nature has created the 'difference' .       BUT NO girl ever flaunting any part of her body ASKS for a rape!!!! She does not even permit you to touch her. YOU take it as her approval. If a girl wearing revealing clothes is 'crossing' her limits then a guy who touches or rapes her is crossing his! She is treating her body the way SHE wants, you please do the same with YOUR mind, not HER body!

You want her to regulate the way she dresses, then you may, for the time being, request you sons to regulate the way they interpret her clothes!

Coming to one highly important word of the discussion- Mentality!
Throughout the cycle of protests, one action that caught my attention was that at one point, people were trying to encourage the girl by calling her brave and at the other, they were sarcastically remarking that the authorities should wear 'choodiyan' for the authorities could do just nothing! Wearing 'bangles', an attribute of a WOMAN'S attire, is still seen as a shameful act; I hardly have a reason to believe that the mentality of 'man is the supreme power' has gone from the society. You are horrified how a man could exercise his dominance over a girl this way...Well, you are not far! Many women are also advising men to wear choodiyan...That just proves how hypocrite they themselves are! I mean really? Is a female attire so shameful for you? Go home..Improve on this very mentality!
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Rewinding...

Remember I was out of Utopia a few posts back?
Well, I feel like drowning into it once again! Whoo!

Yes. It is my exam time..And I have no clue about where to end (I have started already...'Where to start is no issue, dude!...There are THREE lengthy and excruciating books!)

Completed Syllabus, memorized answers and a sound sleep just a day before the exam- Reads nice? Even nicer to imagine na? Huh! I know... The only problem is, imagining it is 'the' only task I can afford to do.

My phone routes are all jammed. Aaa...No. Wait...I HAVE JAMMED the phone routes of my friends' contact numbers. I am calling them every other second to confirm things.

I ask something and they reply," See..this is how it goes...Uddatt...Anudaatt..." and some other stuff I DO not quite comprehend, at all!!
That just proves my ignorance. And what could prove to be an even better proof is this post!
While my friends have taken a sigh of relief, I have taken the chair to sit and write. Hope to come into the previous cheered mode..tomorrow!

"Yaarr....what is the answer to....."