Advices...Marriages...and the existence of both!

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Very recently, the issue of somebody's marriage in my house had popped up. And the debate was already on about how and why that 'person-in-discussion' 's marriage was important.

I understand, you need a 'life-partner'. But that partner can be anything na...Your work, your hobby etc. Why only humans.

Coming to another good thought, I must acknowledge that people usually fall in love on their own. And later get married. So, yes, if they are falling together, let them fall...Later, they shall realize the pain. In many case, they might learn to adjust, as said before. But, if a person is happy on his own, why push him into holy matrimony?

It is quite ironical that such a post is coming from me- A daydreamer who is usually thinking of her would-be life after job, after marriage etc. But I have no experience at all. I still have to learn. Teenage and the third decade of a person's life, both are all about money and love! Not just 'ishq wala love' but every kind of love. And I am a new entrant in this phase of life. Ain't I? 
So, I can always envisage my conjugal or professional life. At times, it feels super exciting to imagine my  'sweet little home'. With my kids and 'him' ;)

But there is also this feeling that I shall never be ready to abandon  those two angels who had, long time back, envisaged 'me' in their 'sweet little home' vision. You know who I am talking of.

So,with such a confusion in mind, I might not ever be able to say a yes to marriage. In case, I find some one and 'fall' in love, I shall face the consequences my self. (That is in distant future)Wouldn't I? Why should the world push me for it.

In a similar manner, I believe, it is upto a person to decide whether or not he/she wants to bind himself/herself in 'holy matrimony'.

So, I come to the point again- Why should an already-trapped world care to arrange a cage for a free bird? Let him/her have his/her time.

Advices...Marriages...The poor fellows!

It is 1.00 am. And I am awake. I have forgotten that I have a syllabus to complete for my exams. But I am not caring at all. I am in a hysterical mode. Either my mind is too exhausted to think of anything or I am in love. Well, the latter is not true to the best of my knowledge. So, the former is cent percent true!

I was out, in the other room, trying to write the vyakhyas of AgniSuktam of the Rigved. I have to face all that stuff in less than a month, that too alone; only my I-card and an Answer sheet shall be my companions. But I am here, trying to share something with a virtual audience...Who most probably are busy with their own important stuffs of life.

But in any case, I am writing. Not too long.

AgniSuktam , one among many Suktas (Sukta is a collection of mantras),   is most probably the easiest thing in the world to understand- Written in the RigVed(1.1.1-1.1.9), It depicts the general perception of Agni Dev- The Fire God( Okay, so I regard such translations as useless.So, I won't be doing anymore!)

One important use of Agni, as perceived by the Vedic Rishis, was in the Yajnas. While reading that I was suddenly reminded of marriage and some other things related to it. ( AgniSuktam is one great Sukta. I had wished to explain a bit more but you would have not liked it plus it is not related to the central theme of my article, today)

Marriage- One holy institution. ((I know, guys have most probably even switched to some other tabs/sites and are not willing to read beyond this while some girls have chosen to read on. ))

Yes, it is one holy institution with great consequences and risks. I have always wondered why families ever and at all want their kids to get married.
One common answer is "to make them settle well" at the "right" time.

I am not here to go deep into that. But in my life of 20 years, I have not seen a single person claim a positive development in his life 'after' marriage. Complaints are at the top of the list. I have seen people get engaged through love or arranged marriages- but none seems a good relief.

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Daw Aung San Suu Kyi's visit and her divinity..the experience continues!

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certain elements of her eloquence in my speech- I envisage myself on the International Nobel Podium and try to utter the same words as she did when she received the Prize and delivered a speech- I am still only 'trying' to get it right. And then once, within the past one week itself, I realised, it is not the prize or even the hysteria of getting it that must have made her so eloquent- It was the pain! The smartness of speech just does not come 'without' undergoing all of that. House Arrest, Husband's Death, The handicap she must have felt on not being able to be with ther kids and watch them grow from “boys to men” and the uncontrolled pain seeing her country going to the worst hands!!
What stands as a prize or the glamour of getting honoured by one's alma mater in this grand way for me is definitely not what and how she sees it.
My achievements, may lie in clearing entrances or some other exams; hers lie in some real goals and freedom for Burma.

I salute her from the bottom of my heart. It takes something to be her! It requires to choose what your instinct guide and not the world. She had a happy life and could have ignored her country for the sake of her children and husband whom she had lost touch with. She did ignore - not her country but her personal pleasure. Only for the sake of her people!

And from the welcome event, what pleased me a lot, other than Mr.Shashi Tharoor's good speech, MG's Speech and Ms.Geeta Chandran's well choreographed Dance was, Daw Suu Kyi's words when she said,” This College is my College...And the Girls are 'My girls' “

Yes, I saw her. And I felt her! She touched me...totally!

It happened after all...and her divinity inspired!

Daw Aung San Suu Kyi's visit went terrific! I enjoyed every every moment of it!
At the end of all, I realised the importance of what I had tried to preach in my previous post- Team Work! Yes, I was very very proud that I was a part of the celebrations and had the opportunity to see her from a distance of less than even 5 metres.

While we waited for her, I was gazing at some of the most prominent faces in the Audience- Ministers, Delhi Cabinet Secretary, US Ambassador to India, Top level NGO workers...But my eyes held on to her the moment she entered...

You know, I have always thought about the qualities which make a leader, a leader! I still think about them. But may be now, with more empathy and less guesses.

Daw Aung San Suu Kyi- Her entrance into the Auditorium created a vibrance which urged me to jump; to jump high, higher and the highest! It takes about a minute for a person to walk down the central isle of the auditorium to the stage. Our choir- yes, the same choir that I had talked about and I had plans of abandoning which- stood at the leftmost corner of the stage waiting her to enter. As soon as she did, we joined our voices to sound one at “Aung San Suu Kyi, Daw Aung San Suu Kyi...” And the welcome song lasted for a minute. She acknowledged the welcome with a slight bow. And I kept staring her face all through this. http://lsr.edu.in/

Her face emitted peace. I could realise how difficult it must have been for her to achieve it. 12 long years of house arrest. Yes, that is DIFFICULT. Her eyes, which have been witness to some of the most turbulent times of Burma and her own life, have become stronger thant ever to emit peace and calmness. Her face just tells it all. It must have been difficult. Really difficult!

I often watch her on YouTube and try to incorporate

A Drop in the Sea...One amongst many!

I do not have a very metaphorical beginning. So, All that I can write to give you an idea of the happenings in my life is "Daw Aung San Suu Kyi". Yes!! The Burmese leader is going to visit LSR this Friday and everybody is super excited!

I am a part of the choir that is going to sing some inspirational songs to honor her. That feels so so amazing!

Just as I was looking forward to the event and my participation, I realized something very beautiful!

Ever since my childhood, College has been one big dream for me! I mean the life, the fun, the frolic, the...everything! Before getting through the admission process at LSR, I had never even presumed how wonderful life would soon become. And every bit of that BIG BIG dream is now finding seats in reality!
Daw Suu Kyi's welcome is a major event! I revere that lady from the core of my heart. I am not even close to being sure if I shall be ever able to exhibit such an endurance for my country and my people. So, welcoming her becomes all the more important and exhilarating.

While we sing and rehearse everyday, including Sundays, at College, we tend to feel what that Lady must have undergone. Ms.Vandana Kohli, our trainer, is putting special efforts to make us sound so. ( Ms.Kohli is an amazing personality! Shall soon write about my experience with her!)

So, two days back, I was moved to the third row in the choir- to make situations clear, I must tell you that this row of the choir is highly visible but very lowly comprehensible! Everybody can see that there is a third row, but no faces are to be see- the faces get hidden, only bodies are seen! huh!
When I was told to occupy my position in that row, I was low on mood! I did not want to be on that position. I hated it totally. Glamour and publicity huh! They attract me so much. I was so engrossed that for a second, I thought of leaving the group and abandoning the idea of even being a part of the celebrations. Later, my hysteria came down and I continued with whatever was going on.

Today, I saw many people in the Audi. Honourable dignitaries are going to be there for the celebrations and hence, many volunteers have been deputed. There are, as expected, many places where the volunteers will be working- and many such places would not even get to be known by the Audience. Still, people will work. Do you know why. Because such tiny places together will make the event grand! THAT is the importance of team work. Every member counts...Every effort results.



The event shall fail if the back stage volunteers refuse to work.. Their proper work will ensure that Chairs are put properly, things are good on stage so that when Ms Suu Kyi finally arrives, the Stage looks good and nothing goes embarrassing! Events happening off screen are a major reason why On screen, things look good and pleasant.

So, when I realized that I had been made a tiny part of a group that was a major part of the event, I regained my strength. Regaining it was accompanied by the fact that my voice is a baritone and depsite that, I am getting the opportunity to sing for that wonderful lady!- I am not less lucky! ( At this point, I must thank IMS President for providing me this opportunity! )

So, I am not low on mood anymore! I am one amongst the many drops that together make a Sea. Yes, I am happy :) :)